In the Middle

I feel caught in the middle of two bickering parents on the verge of a nasty divorce. I feel like I’m being tugged this way and that, pulled into the drama of each side. What do I think? I don’t really know. Sometimes I don’t know if I have enough information to make a well informed decision. I don’t think anyone else has all the answers either. I believe there is a lot of gray in the world and
not a lot of easily distinguishable black or white. All of us are capable of meanness and kindness and have moments of each. But, we always have a choice of how we respond to situations.

There are several versions of the following quote. This one is attributed to Sitting Bull: Inside of me there are two dogs. One is mean and evil and the other is good and they fight each other all the time. When asked which one wins I answer, the one I feed the most.”

So, please, stop feeding the evil dog inside. Just stop it. Take a good long deep breath and throw the good dog a bone.

Our current social issues have us passionately advocating for this or that side, but in such a way as it causes division, disharmony, violence, and hatred among neighbors, coworkers, family members, and even complete strangers. Can we not disagree without disowning each other? Can we not have differing opinions without becoming enemies?

Are you pro choice or pro life? Are you anti gun or pro gun? Are you a Christian or a Muslim? Are you black or white? Gay or straight? I don’t care. I love you both.

See, I don’t care if you go to church or don’t. I don’t care if you cuss or don’t. I don’t care if you drink or don’t. I don’t care if you clean your house or not. I don’t care if your furniture matches, if your car is nice, if your house is fancy, or even if you mow your yard. I care about whether you gossip about people, or judge them, or think you are better than someone else. I care about whether you are genuinely kind to people, if you help them out every once in a while. I care about how you care for your animals. I care about if you are stressed and anxious. I care about whether you are hopeful or not. I care if your heart is full of hate or love. I care about your thoughts. I want them to be good and positive, because they are filtering out into my world and my surroundings. Yours, mine, and everyone else’s thoughts collectively create the world that surrounds us.

Whatever you focus on gains power over you. Choose to focus on hate and fear and you will stay aggressively tensed up in a chaotic world; choose love and you will live in peace. It is up to you. When you tweet, post, comment, or share something, is it intended to stir up the drama even more? Is it a message of love or fear?

I recommend you choose love. Choose kindness. You don’t have to go to hateful means to prove your point. We don’t all have to agree; we don’t even have to be friends. We just need to be mindful to not fan the flames of contempt and hatred. Figure out how to feel peace in your heart. Unplug. Go outside; take a walk…focus on the beauty of the world. Do it now!

Do it for the kids. Do it for the world.


(…You’re a catalyst to your own, happiness you know…

…You’re the decider of the world you’ll get to know

Cause it’s your heart, it’s alive
It’s pumping blood)


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